The Skull Cupcake and Why It’s One Of The Most Important Cultural Phenomenons In The World Today (TW:Discussion of rape, and similar)
Monster High Dolls are the top selling fashion dolls in the world, out pacing even Barbie, Lady Gaga’s fans are “Little Monsters” and Gaga herself is “mother monster,” as I write this I am wearing a dress bedecked with purple unicorns and skulls with hearts for eyes with head bows and cupcakes with skulls in their sugary pink icing. Everywhere the spooky/girly/sometimes sort of sexy is. Lipstick and bones, and corsets and zombies, and the ever present cupcake motif. Jezebel says cupcakes are a symbol of femininity, but they are also a symbol of childhood, and personally it seems to me the dual obsessions with the sugary sweet and the macabre play heavily into women’s anxieties in the current era.
For one, girls are thrust out of childhood the second their bodies mature enough for men to start yelling lewd things at them as they walk down the street, and so there’s the sexy scary Alice in sexy scary wonderland, a world where the sugary pinkness of femininity still pervades, but the barbie dream castle is no longer the safe haven it once was, and one is caught in a muddle of experimenting with adult femininity, having adult femininity thrust upon one and still being very much a child.
As well, economic problems have prevented huge swaths of people from attaining economic independence from their parents, they are caught in some ways in childhood, adults who cannot leave home and start “grownup” careers. The skull cupcake is also the fear of dying without growing up, living to old age in the room filed with unicorns, still sleeping on a pink canopy bed.
However, there is another facet to it, it is also a defense, femininity and monstrousness have long been linked, and from the culture of advertising (erase that, deodorize this, remove wrinkles, hide tummy bulge, shave off all trace of body hair, conceal those dark circles, whatever your hair does when left alone is wrong and needs a conditioning panacea) one gets the idea that perhaps the female body, left to its own devices is monstrous. Then again when we “over do” the artifice, we’re also scary, electric blue eyeshadow, over the top eyeliner, too many ruffles and crinolines and the use of the surgeon’s knife to attain one’s choice of appearance are also deemed monstrous. We are supposed to aspire to be the naturally pretty virgin mother twirling in a white dress in a field of flowers, the only aspect of womanhood that has no hint for society of the monster (though of course, motherhood with its stretched belly, nausea and insatiable hunger is monstrous too and magazines love to remind us of that), so to accept ones monstrousness to revel in it, I think is a sign of change perhaps.
It is also, I think a sort of talismanic defense, there has long been the sexy monster girl, Elvira, Vampira, and the femme fatale with fangs or claws or black magic, but these tropes (beloved as they are to me) belong originally to male fantasy, the girly cupcake-ified variation is different because her over the top girliness, her cutesiness combine with the macabre are supposed to keep the masculine in a certain way at bay. As a general rule, men dislike ruffles, and cupcake-y, sugary cuteness, it’s intended often to be quite pretty, but the antithesis of sexy, which in combination with the skulls, the bloody axes, the monsters, is a sort of symbolic “Keep away” for unwanted male attention. After all, monsters don’t get raped.
It may also be kind of an attempt to reconcile femininity with menstruation (Cutesy, bloody)
chubby-bubbi replied to your post “i’m asking for your help other fat babes: lingerie for fat afab…”
It’s so hard to find really sexy lingerie for bigger babes. I found better lingerie in Marks & Spencer’s, also Evans (Evans is a bit overpriced and not as sexy). Figleaves.com offer more “cute” lingerie. Hope this helps and happy shopping! xo
thank you! i will have a look :)
Hello, my name is Strong Female Character, and my secret power is reaffirming the heterosexuality of the disproportionately male cast.
i’m asking for your help other fat babes:
lingerie for fat afab bodies pls! particularly anything in green silk that will actually fit breasts that need more than a laughable 36D cup
when your preferences fall down power lines they cease to be preferences and become biases
if skinny people get this mad over one lyric in a song imagine how they would feel if they had to face the constant reminders that there is something fundamentally flawed and disgusting about your body and that it’s all your fault and that it would be better if you just didn’t exist (and this was evidenced, upheld and justified by popular culture, media, medical journals, clothing stores, family, friends, total strangers etc.)
y’all couldn’t do it. y’all wouldn’t last a day.
Imagine if nicki had actual fat girls in her video tho