You know whats fucking scary? The fact that I could literally change my life at any moment. I could stop talking to everyone that makes me unhappy. I could kiss whoever i want. I could shave my head or get on a plane or take my own life. Nothing is stopping me. The entire world is in my hands, and I have no idea what to do with it.
i never anticipated that i would have better things to do than watch doctor who
there needs to be like, 1000% more non-binary characters everywhere
girls who call their boyfriends “daddy” make me want to go about my life as normal because someone else’s relationship doesn’t affect my life and i have no right to judge how someone else goes about their relationship.
More girls are killed in this routine gendercide in any ONE decade, than people were slaughtered in ALL the genocides of the 20th century."
i feel like i’ve heard some shady shit about sedgwick? i’m so out of the academic gossip loop i might be getting it wrong. i will re-visit and examine, maybe it will cheer me up and out of my death drive habitation. it sounds lovely. thank you.
I really like a lot of Sedgwick, but she crosses a line, I think, in her recuperation of shame in Touching Feeling. In her chapter “Shame, Theatricality, Queer Performativity,” she argues that shame is an inherently social emotion. We feel shame because we feel like we have failed others, she claims, and she says that “shame is itself a form of communication” (36). Which is good, yes, I think there’s some important work to be done in depathologizing shame, but for me at least I think she overlooks how shame operates for some groups of historically marginalized people. Put less jargony: when your very existence is seen as something shameful by much of “dominant” “culture” it’s maybe a little contrite to say you should just simply “reclaim” your shame. So, for example, I have OCD and I have to constantly negotiate disclosing to people in my profession because I am pretty well aware of the things people think about me (and sometimes say to me, to my face). I didn’t tell anyone I had OCD for years because I was so ashamed and afraid.
I think her line of reasoning is pretty flawed here, and the kicker for me is when she goes after the “Black is Beautiful” movement as an example of a political movement based in diminishing the shame of a marginalized group (62). She argues that movements like this are “preposterous” (this is the actual word she uses!!) because shame is what ultimately binds us into groups as humans and you can’t ever get rid of it (62). Which is like, okay, say what you will about shame and how it’s a social emotion, but when you start undermining and attacking a group whose sole agenda is to work on ending systemic racism and discrimination and ultimately violence, a movement that is still important to a lot of people - specifically a lot of women - because we’re still grappling with the normalization of white standards of beauty, like, your privilege is showing, Eve. Step back.
Oooooooooo. Okay. Thank you for bringing this up!! I will revisit her work with both eyes peeled 4 this agenda of hers.